“Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.” - Alain de Botton
Websites & Podcasts
Wise Heart PDX - many excellent free resources to develop your mindfulness and Non-Violent Communication skills, and enhance the quality of your relationships
Bay Area NVC - brush up on your communication skills by taking a NVC training class
Infidelity Resource Guide - A guide to having conversations on infidelity by Esther Perel, and exploring the three phases of recovery.
Where Should We Begin - Podcast on relationships by Esther Perel
The Gottman Relationship Institute is a great resource for people who want more information and tools to work on their relationships. John Gottman is known for his extensive research into how to make create healthier relationships.
Online Assessments and Questionnaires
Repair Attempts Questionnaire – take this assessment then click on the link below to learn more about Repairs
36 Questions the Lead to Love from the NY Times
Gottman Card Decks App - this free app offers helpful questions, statements, and ideas for improving your relationship.
Crisis Services
National Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 799-SAFE (7233) or TTY (800) 787-3224
National Sexual Assault Hotline: (800) 656-HOPE (4673) (24-hour)
San Francisco Women Against Rape 24 Hour Peer Support Hotline: (415) 861-2024
Bay Area Women Against Rape (BAWAR) 24-Hour Hotline, English and Spanish: (510) 845-7273
Recommended Books
Videos on Relationships:
Esther Perel -Rethinking Infidelity
The 7 Principles For Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
Common conflict patterns in relationships:
Stan Tatkin - Relationships Are Hard, But Why?
Conscious Uncoupling - Katherine Woodward Thomas
Helen Fisher- The Brain In Love